So I’m sitting at work, attempting to be productive and John Legend’s “Ordinary People” came on. Now, this is the LAST song I need to be listening to right now. Relationships and me are like oil and water, WE DON”T MIX. I felt myself starting to get into a funk, when I really started listening to the words of the song.
“We’re just ordinary people, we don’t know which way to go, cuz we’re ordinary people,
maybe we should take it slow.” –John Legend, “Ordinary People”
How many times have you gotten mad at a person because they are not doing something you feel they should be doing? Or how about a situation is not working in your favor, you get pissed? **Raising hand**. Yes, yes, I am guilty of this. All of us are. We just can’t take a person where they are at that present moment or deal with a situation in the present moment. We want to change, fix or alter the situation so that it’s in our favor, so that we’re satisfied. Listening to this song made me think about: ACCEPTANCE.
ACCEPTANCE: an agreeing either expressly or by conduct to the act or offer of another so that a contract is concluded and the parties become legally bound. (Merriam Webster definition).
I have a hard time accepting things at times for what it is. Why is my hair growing so slow? Why can’t I lose this last 5 pounds? Why? Why? Why? We get mad at little children for the many “why” questions they ask, but as adults we act as if it’s okay for us to do. I know I would be mad if someone said to me, “Because it does” or “God made it like that” or trying to come up with a ridiculous answer that makes no sense (My famous responses to my son’s questions).
Acceptance is difficult for people because some see it as giving up a sense of power or control over another or a situation. Rather than seeing it in a negative light, we should embrace it. Accepting a person allows you to get to know them, understand them, grow with them, and learn about yourself. We spend so much time trying to fight the inevitable, but we don’t look at all the pain that is being caused by the fighting. I always tell people I accept them for who they are, but I have to question if this is really true. I may get upset by something I perceive them to do and they are looking at me with the crazy look. You said you accept me and my situation, but now you’re getting upset. So I have to ask myself, do I really?
One of my goals I hope to get out of this writing journey is learning to accept me for me. I am making a personal pact with myself that I will love Tamera and all the positive and negative attributes about me. Those things that are within my power to change, I am going to try to change. Those that I can’t change, well, I am going to have to accept them and figure out a way to deal with them.